Do You Know How Your “Attachment Style” Impacts Your Relationship?

The propensity to make strong emotional bonds to particular individuals is a basic component of human nature.
~ John Bowlby

Simply put, your “style of attachment” is the way you emotionally bond with others. It is the model you learned in childhood to “connect.”

Growing up in a loving, stable home with […]

Why Some of Us Know How to Connect and Others Struggle

Love is our true destiny. We do not find the meaning of life
by ourselves alone – we find it with another.
~ Thomas Merton

Tom: I’ve been with my husband, Dave, for 10 years. Even though he has never cheated on me, I still worry about it. It’s really not his […]

Why We Stay in Relationships That Hurt

My recent Topic Expert contribution to GoodTherapy.org is getting rave reviews so I thought it would be helpful to some of you!

As this therapy vignette illustrates, unhealthy patterns learned in childhood are often repeated in adult relationships because they feel safe, if unfulfilling. Read more about Why We Stay […]

How Do You Receive Love?

Your task is not to seek love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers withinyourself that you have built against it.-Rumi

“It’s easier to give love than receive it.” Abbey enjoyed bestowing compliments, gifts and acts of kindness upon others; but she didn’t like receiving them herself. She […]