Is Your Partner Trustworthy?

“I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you.”
– Friedrich Nietzsche
Do you trust your partner? Most people assume this question refers to a partner’s faithfulness. Yet fidelity is only one aspect of trust in relationships. The meaning of trust deserves […]

Is Hurting the Partner We Love Inevitable?

Why do people hurt the ones they love? Some partners are self-centered; they focus on their own desires and not on the needs of the relationship. Their ability to compartmentalize allows them to act in destructive ways that end up perpetrating harm upon their partner. Self-interest trumps concern for […]

3 Strategies to Stop Anger from Ruining Your Relationship

Anger, more than any other feeling, can destroy a relationship. Left unattended it will create a divide between partners that cannot be crossed. At one extreme, anger that is expressed can lead to verbal, emotional and/or physical abuse. At the other extreme, anger left unexpressed will build a wall […]

Can This Relationship Be Saved?

Couples wait an average of seven years after problems begin to seek help. Bob and I can confirm many couples come to counseling stating we are their last hope before separation. One partner is usually very anxious to get help and keep the relationship together, while the other has […]