cover The State of Affairs Esther PerelRebuilding a relationship after trust has been shattered, begins with understanding why the affair happened. Most people would say, “Surely, there was something wrong in the relationship. Something must have been broken.” If only it was that simple.

It’s easy to blame it on the partners in the relationship – the betrayed wasn’t fulfilling the needs of their spouse, or the betrayer was just selfish and narcissistic. While sometimes that is the case, sometimes it’s not.

There are people who care about their spouse or partner, have a good relationship, and also have an affair. Esther Perel, psychotherapist and best-selling author, explores this reality in her new book, The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity.

As a preview of the book, read Esther’s article in The Atlantic, “Why Happy People Cheat.”

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