Valentine’s Day reminds us that Love is a Verb. Doing “acts of love” can literally heat up our relationships, stimulate romance, passion, emotional and erotic intimacy, and deepen connection. A loving relationship is the closest we will get to “heaven on earth.”

Gary Chapman, author of The Five Love Languages, writes about five different ways to express love. He states that each one of us has our preferences as to how we want to receive love. They are:

  1. Words of Affirmation: Using words to tell your partner you love him/her – e.g., compliments, words of endearment.
  2. Quality Time: Spending time together – e.g., going out to dinner or on a trip.
  3. Gifts: Big or small, it’s about putting thought into what would please your partner.
  4. Acts of Service: “Doing” for your partner – e.g., helping with chores.
  5. Physical Touch: Massage, affection, sex.

Think about how your partner wants to receive love, emotionally and physically. What means the most to them? What made them fall in love with you?

Remember to love your partner the way they want to be loved, not the way you may want to give it.

Here are 9 romantic ideas for Valentine’s Day to help get you started:

Plan a romantic weekend or overnight getaway.

BedandBreakfast.com is one of our favorite websites. You can book online, see pictures of the rooms and select your favorite. Don’t forget to call the B&B ahead and let them suggest restaurants for a romantic dinner. They will make the reservation for you.

Take the day off with your partner and go on a day trip.

Plan things your partner would enjoy and make dinner reservations ahead! Think about what your partner likes and surprise them with your thoughtfulness.

Create a romantic dinner.

Make (or buy) her favorite dinner, put on romantic music, set the table with candles and roses, and ask her to dance.

Help her relax.

Draw a warm bubble bath for her before she gets home. Leave a trail of rose petals from the front door up to the bathroom. Have flowers, soft music and a beautiful card waiting for her on the tub. How about a massage after the bath?

Write her a poem or a song.

Get your creative juices flowing and read or sing it to her. Then give her the words and a picture of the two of you in a frame.

Surprise him.

Go to his workplace before he leaves and put chocolate kisses in his car with a card letting him know you will be in the mood tonight.

Create loving gift cards for your partner.

Make gift cards for his favorite things – e.g., a weekend away, a gift certificate for him to take you to Victoria’s Secret.

Give gifts of loving sentiments.

Leave little sticky notes with reasons you love her everywhere she will see them (the bathroom mirror, inside the kitchen cabinets, on the refrigerator, in her car).

Make a gift instead of buying it.

Make your own handwritten cards. Taking the time to reflect on what you love and appreciate about each other is very uplifting and it will fill your hearts with positive energy.

As you celebrate Valentine’s Day this year, let it be a reminder that it is up to you and your partner to shake up the energy and create the emotional and sexual connection that will keep your relationship going, on Valentine’s Day and every day. Expressing love does take effort, but the rewards are immeasurable.

Have a Happy Valentine’s Day and here’s to your relationship!


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