Sex is important in marriage, but just how much sex are we talking about? And how much sex makes people happy?

One of the most frequent questions we get from clients is: “How much sex should we be having?” This is especially a topic of concern when one partner wants sex twice a week and the other wants it twice a month. A couples’ disagreement may turn into conflict about who’s right and who’s wrong.

For more insight, check out How Often Do Married Couples Have Sex?, an article that examines this popular question.

A related question that’s been studied looks at: Is Sex Once A Week Enough For A Happy Relationship?

Differences in sexual desire are common. Couples who don’t communicate about this issue allow feelings of rejection and resentment to grow. Just like all the other differences we navigate in relationships, this one needs to be tended to for a relationship to stay intimate and healthy.

If you are in a relationship that hurts and feel disconnected, have difficulties communicating, and/or are experiencing a crisis, we can help. Call us at 410-363-2825 or email

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