Over the years, it is not an easy feat to sustain physical intimacy with our partners. Sex becomes routine. Some couples have sex infrequently or stop having it altogether. Differences in desire and libido are common with couples, especially if they have been married for many years. Often when a partner gets turned down repeatedly, they feel rejected and may stop asking. Couples can end up like roommates.

To sustain your sexual connection over the years, you have to be intentional. It requires good communication with your partner, planning sex when it can’t be spontaneous. and taking responsibility for nurturing this vital part of marriage.

World-renowned sex therapist, Esther Perel, addresses this in her TED Talk:

The Secret to Desire in a Long-Term Relationship

This is a must-see!

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Relationship Drift – How Couples Can Restore Connection


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