What Is the Best Valentine Gift of All?

It’s that time again – Valentines Day. The one day of the year when it’s vital for most of us to get the gift right. After all, it’s a gift of love that celebrates the deep connection upon which our relationships are built.

We thought it would be helpful to […]

Is Hurting the Partner We Love Inevitable?

Why do people hurt the ones they love? Some partners are self-centered; they focus on their own desires and not on the needs of the relationship. Their ability to compartmentalize allows them to act in destructive ways that end up perpetrating harm upon their partner. Self-interest trumps concern for […]

Discover the Power of Empathy

When your “significant other” gets angry with you, do respond with anger or defensiveness?

Next time your partner gets heated, try something different. Meet anger with empathy. The outcome will amaze you. Here’s how it works.

Knowing this gives you a powerful choice when temperatures rise in your relationship. You can […]

The Single Most Important Ingredient in Relationships

“I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued;
when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.”
– Brene Brown
Jim: You’re always on my back. I’ll clean up the basement when […]

How to Navigate the Dance of Right and Wrong in Relationships

Ann and Warren had a huge fight right before their session with us. In their previous session we had explored how Warren responded to conflict just like his father; he shut down when difficult feelings arose.

Just prior to seeing them that day, Ann brought up a sensitive issue, and as […]