The Key to Difficult Conversations with Your Partner

4 Steps to Transform Communication with Your Partner – Part 4
“When angry, count to ten before you speak.
If very angry, count to one hundred.”
-Thomas Jefferson
The way you say things really matters. When we’re upset, and hijacked by our fight or flight response, it’s likely that what we say to […]

How to Lower Your Anger Threshold in Conflict

4 Steps to Transform Communication with Your Partner – Part 3
“Speak when you are angryand you will make the best speech you will ever regret.”- Ambrose Bierce
Our feelings about “anger” come from childhood. Growing up I got the message, “It’s not nice to be angry.” My mom was […]

You Have the Key to Manage Conflict

4 Steps to Transform Communication with Your Partner – Part 2

I have bad news and good news.

The bad news: Dr. John Gottman’s 42 years of research on couples found that 69% of the chronic arguments we have with our partners will never be fully resolved. (I can’t say I […]

4 Steps to Transform Communication with Your Partner

You get home after a long day of work. Once again the house is a mess, the kids haven’t done homework, dinner hasn’t been started and your partner is sitting on the couch watching the ballgame.

Suddenly your muscles tense up, your heart starts pounding, your hands get cold and […]