Consciously Create "Love Habits" for Valentine's Day
"The art of love... is largely the art of persistence." ~ Albert Ellis
On Valentine's Day we celebrate our love and our relationships. We plan romantic dates, exchange thoughtful gifts, and write cards expressing sentiments of affection.We are reminded that acts of love are what create the feelings of love. To keep love alive for a lifetime, we believe couples should consciously do small acts of love every day by creating love habits: loving behaviors that become habitual. Establishing the habit of acting in loving ways will reinforce feelings of caring and connection, and nurture the relationship.Here are some examples of love habits:
- Greet each other after work with a kiss on the lips and a long hug;
- Say "I love you" every day;
- Share your day when you get home'
- Commit to having lunch together once a week;
- Establish a regular weekly date night;
- Leave notes for each other;
- Hold hands;
- Go to bed together at night;
- Give appreciation daily;
- Plan regular sex dates.
It is the little things we do every day that will prevent love from fading. Use this Valentine's Day as a reminder to create your own love habits so you keep the passion alive in your partnership.
When you show love, you will feel your love.
We would love to hear your thoughts and ideas about love habits on our Facebook page.To Your Relationship,Lori and Bob Hollander
Lori Hollander, LCSW-C, BCD, and Bob Hollander, LCSW-C, JD, are licensed counselors and co-founders of Relationships Work, an innovative therapy practice and online resource center that gives couples 360 degrees of support for extraordinary partnerships. Sign up for Radical Relationships, a monthly eZine from Relationships Work, and receive Why Take the Journey to Extraordinary? absolutely free.