Evolve Not Resolve - Relationship Evolution for the New Year
So often we talk about resolving conflict, resolving problems, resolving differences. As we were thinking about our goals for 2011, it occurred to us that we don't really "resolve" issues in relationships. Resolving means the process of solving a problem or difficulty, finding an answer to a problem, making a decision, bringing a disagreement to an end.Though we certainly do solve problems, make decisions and conclude conflicts with our partners, we never fully finish. Most couples have chronic issues that they continue to talk about during the lifetime of their marriages. Our relationships are actually in a continual process of "evolution," growing healthier and stronger or becoming weaker and more fragile.As 2011 gets off to a start we want to share our thoughts with you about this process - what we call Relationship Evolution.
Relationship evolution is the never-ending, continual process of consciously creating the head, heart, hormones connection through the ongoing actions and words exchanged between two people.
The individual decisions you make every day: the way you act towards and speak to your partner, how you treat your partner, whether you appreciate and show gratitude toward your partner, will drive the evolution of your connection in one direction or the other.In this month's Radical Relationships video we talk about the evolution of relationships and how you can drive yours in the direction of closer connection.CLICK HERE TO WATCH THE VIDEOTo your relationship,Lori and Bob Hollander
Lori Hollander, LCSW-C, BCD, and Bob Hollander, LCSW-C, JD, are licensed counselors and co-founders of Relationships Work, an innovative therapy practice and online resource center that gives couples 360 degrees of support for extraordinary partnerships. Sign up for Radical Relationships, a monthly eZine from Relationships Work, and receive Why Take the Journey to Extraordinary? absolutely free.