How to Decide Who to Blame

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All men and women have an equal need for love. When these needs are not fulfilled it is easy to have our feelings hurt, for which we blame our partner. ~ John Gray

The Blame Game is often one of the biggest roadblocks to couples creating a healthy and loving relationship. Our "fight or flight" response sets us up to become defensive when we perceive an attack by our partner and once this begins the blaming escalates. So who is to blame?Watch this video to hear us talk about blame. Then have your partner watch and discuss how blame impacts your relationship.

Here are five tips to help you:

1) Ask yourself how you contributed to the problem.2) Communicate with each other when calm.3) Take turns acknowledging your own part (words and actions).4) Replace blaming with understanding what happened.5) Always maintain respect.We would love to hear your thoughts about blame in relationships on our Facebook page.

Your relationship deserves the highest level of support. Relationship Experts, Bob and Lori Hollander are committed to helping individuals and couples build connection and deepen bonds in a world that often makes it difficult.Call them at 410-363-2825 or email them today, info@relationshipswork.com.
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