Is Marriage a Noun or a Verb?

Despite what you've heardYeah love ain't a thingLove is a verbLove ain't a thingLove is a verbSo you gotta show, show, show meShow, show, show meShow, show, show meThat love is a verb~ John Mayer (Lyrics from "Love Is a Verb")When you think of "true love" what comes to mind? Passion, romance, a rush of adrenaline, 50 Shades of Grey?Most of us think of "true love" as a feeling. Gary Chapman, in his best-selling book Love is a Verb says, "Love is a choice you make every day." Love is not the dreamy, adoring, fiery feeling where your partner can do no wrong. (You may have that in the beginning, but ask anyone who has been married for a while, it doesn't last.)The honeymoon feelings that you may take for granted will be challenged when you have an argument or your partner spends too much money. It's vital for any couple who wants a long-term relationship to understand that as love evolves over the years it ripens into a more mature love; but only if you actively feed and nurture the loving feelings."True love" is alive, active, dynamic and energetic and requires conscious, concrete loving acts of kindness to keep the emotional and sexual desire burning.

The in-love experience does not focus on our own growth or on the growth and development of the other person. Rather, it gives us the sense that we have arrived and that we do not need further growth. ~Gary Chapman

Watch this video to hear us talk about how love is a verb in relationships and what you can do.We would love to hear your thoughts about love as a verb in your relationship on our Facebook page.To your relationship,Lori and Bob Hollander