Can You Really Have a Lifetime of Romantic and Erotic Sex?
Marriage isn’t supposed to make you happy - and satisfied. It's your job to make your marriage happy - and satisfying. Same goes for sex. It isn't supposed to make you passionate and 'hot.' It's up to you to make it passionate and 'hot and intimate.
~ Diane Sollee
"He's coming to pick me up in an hour for dinner and drinks; I can't wait. I'm going to slip into the bathtub and listen to some romantic music and then figure out what to wear. What outfit will put me in the mood? Wonder what he is going to be wearing? I love his smile and the way that he looks at me. I can feel the way he touches me. Mmm..."The doorbell rings..."Wow, he brought flowers; he knows I love them. His embrace and our deep kiss felt so warm. It's going to be a great night."On the way home..."Dinner was so romantic, and that glass of wine relaxed me. He loved when I rubbed his leg under the table. I loved when he told me how grateful he was to have me in his life and I told him what I appreciated about him.”"Later that night my husband and I made passionate love."Does the above sound like your last date with your husband? Most likely not.In the beginning of relationships, like with anything new, there is excitement, mystery and adventure. After years of being together, raising kids, building careers, if a couple still makes time and energy for sex, chances are it may not have the same passion and eroticism that once existed.The difference with the couple above is they consciously used actions, thoughts and words to stoke the romantic and erotic embers that existed. They decided to have a date where they would get dressed separately, took time and care to look their best for each other, focused on past thoughts of love and lovemaking, and expressed their feelings to each other in words and deeds.You too can have a lifetime of passion and erotic sex, but only if you understand it is up to you and your spouse to create and nurture it.
Marriage, ultimately, is the practice of becoming passionate friends. ~ Harville Hendrix
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Lori Hollander, LCSW-C, BCD, and Bob Hollander, LCSW-C, JD, are licensed counselors and co-founders of Relationships Work, an innovative therapy practice and online resource center that gives couples 360 degrees of support for extraordinary partnerships. Sign up for Radical Relationships, a monthly eZine from Relationships Work, and receive Why Take the Journey to Extraordinary? absolutely free.