Taking Your Relationship to Extraordinary in 2010: Part IV – Erotic Intimacy Forever

Did you resolve this New Year to take your relationship to the next level?(If you didn’t, it’s not too late.)Our January Relationship Recharge posts focus on the four critical areas needed to achieve extraordinary: Emotional Intimacy, Money Matters, Authentic Communication, and Erotic Connection.Part IV: Erotic Intimacy ForeverErotic intimacy in a committed relationship is a crucial part of the mind, heart, body connection; and yet difficult to achieve. Conflict about sex is the second biggest reason couples separate. (The first biggest reason is money.)

Falling in love is easy. That's why we call it "falling" and not "climbing." We fall in love - we sometimes even plummet. There is excitement and desire during this beginning stage of love and ? we feel like we can't get enough of it. It's only later that we wonder what happened to our sexual connection.

- Tammy Nelson, Ph.D., LPC - author, Getting the Sex You Want

 

Attending to the erotic connection in your relationship happens when you know, love and support your partner's needs, wants and desires sexually. Emotional and sexual intimacy go hand in hand to create a deeply intimate relationship.KnowingHow well do you know each other sexually? Would you be able to describe your partner's wants, desires, fantasies? Are you aware of how satisfied your partner is with your erotic connection? How safe is it to authentically communicate what you love or don't love about your sexual relationship?LovingDo you talk about your sexual relationship? How deeply do you understand your partner's feelings about sex and where those feelings come from? Do you validate and respect each other's needs, desires and wants? How well do you work together to create a satisfying erotic connection for both of you?SupportingDo you support your partner by working to understand and resolve your sexual differences? Are you aware of your partner's sexual history and how that has affected him/her?With consciousness, communication and caring, erotic intimacy in a committed relationship can last forever.We recommend the following books to help deepen you and your partner's sexual connection:Discovering Your Couple Sexual Style: Sharing Desire, Pleasure, and Satisfactionby Barry and Emily McCarthyThe Return of Desire: A Guide to Rediscovering Your Sexual Passionby Gina OgdenGetting the Sex You Wantby Tammy NelsonMating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligenceby Esther PerelThe Sex-Starved Wife: What to Do When He's Lost Desireby Michele Weiner DavisSome of our couples read a chapter at a time to each other - a great way to spend quality time together and connect what you are learning to your own relationship.What do you feel is the biggest obstacle in having erotic intimacy forever?

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Your relationship deserves the highest level of support. Relationship Experts, Bob and Lori Hollander are committed to helping individuals and couples build connection and deepen bonds in a world that often makes it difficult.Call them at 410-363-2825 or email them today, info@relationshipswork.com.

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